Admission to a university typically results in happiness for the individual and their family. However, it may also result in a significant financial strain on the parents. particularly if they have two kids who share their goals.
Conflict with stepmother
Last week, I was accepted to my ideal university. I was overjoyed because I had put a lot of effort into getting accepted. However, after my stepsister, who is the same age as me, was accepted to a pricey, far-off institution, my joy didn’t last long.
My stepmother said our family doesn’t have the money to pay for both of us, so only my stepsister can study, as she is more likely to succeed in her career as a lawyer. While I only wanted to learn literature and probably be a teacher later.
I told my stepmum that it is not fair, both of us should have the chance to study. I also argued that my grades were much better than hers, so the cost of my studies would also be much smaller, as I could get a scholarship, while my stepsister didn’t have a real chance for it.
I also asked my father for assistance, but he refused to debate with his wife and stated that only my stepsister could pursue higher study. I’m really disappointed now. I don’t want to argue with my family, but I also don’t want to give up on my ambition.
I are sure that your situation might sound familiar. Let’s see what choices you have now.
Stick to your dream
The first option is not giving up your dream and still going to University. It also means, though, that you have to finance your studies alone, without the help of your parents. You mentioned scholarships, which would be a great start, but usually, they would only cover the tuition fees. Which means you still need to cover your accommodation, your food, and any additional costs.
To do that, taking a job besides your studies would be necessary, making your free, easy Uni life much harder. Of course, that’s a solution many students use in a similar situation. Another option is to ask for a student loan that you will pay back later. Even better if you can borrow some money from someone in your family, but be careful to lay down the rules of the payback.
Postpone your studies
This might be the tougher option, but you can also choose to postpone your studies. Until then, you can find a job and save money for your studies. This way, you would also avoid any further confrontation with your family. And who knows, if they see that you are working hard and haven’t given up on your dream, they might reconsider your support.
During this time, you can also rethink what you want, if you still want to study further, and stick with your chosen school. Getting more experience in life can make the decision easier, while you can also pick up some new skills and interests.
To live with a step-parent is often not easy.
